National Adoption Day
We got word today that we'll be finalizing Hester's adoption on Friday, November 16--National Adoption Day. I'm not looking forward to it. I'd hoped that we could do something small, something that would honor the solemnity of the occasion as well as the mixed emotions that the day will surely bring. I'd hoped it would be just Ms. Stork (our social worker), our little family, and the judge. Instead, we're going to have Adoptionpalooza! complete with arts and crafts, a community breakfast, and a press conference "to celebrate all the adopting families."
It just feels wrong to me.
I wonder what Hester will think of this day in years to come. Will she think it's cool that there was such a to-do on the day she legally joined our family, or will she be angry that such fuss was made on such a bittersweet day? Hard to say.
In the meantime, I wish we trusted the placing agency enough to tell them what we really want. Knowing them, it's better to go along with the carnival of National Adoption Day than to fight for our own small, private adoption day. November 16 is the soonest day we'd be able to adopt Hester, so that's what we'll do. We'll make it legal like some tacky Vegas wedding, then we'll get the hell out of there.
It just feels wrong to me.
I wonder what Hester will think of this day in years to come. Will she think it's cool that there was such a to-do on the day she legally joined our family, or will she be angry that such fuss was made on such a bittersweet day? Hard to say.
In the meantime, I wish we trusted the placing agency enough to tell them what we really want. Knowing them, it's better to go along with the carnival of National Adoption Day than to fight for our own small, private adoption day. November 16 is the soonest day we'd be able to adopt Hester, so that's what we'll do. We'll make it legal like some tacky Vegas wedding, then we'll get the hell out of there.
Labels: Adoption, Hester Willa, Mamaville
posted by Clementine at 3:36 PM
4 Comments:
I know what you're saying, but on the other hand the two aspects can be separate.
i say enjoy and park carefully.
I'm with Shirky. Also, when we finalized Roo's adoption, the judge cleared the courtroom first - apparently standard proceedings for an adoption. No one is in there except the officials and the people you invite.
Regardless, congratulations on having a real date to look forward to. I do understand your ambivalence. It's very bittersweet.
Yes, congrats on the hard date, and that's good info from RIF. No Adoptionpalooza in the courtroom at least!
I went to an adoption finalization on Adoption Day. It wasn't nearly as hectic as I thought it would be, and the small girl in question thought the party was just for her, which was totally cool.
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